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Now is the Time to Think Positive – Free Book

Hi Everyone,

I know our world is in a huge kerfluffle right now.  This virus – Covid 19 is serious.  People all over the world are getting sick, and people are dying.  We’re social distancing, quarantining as needed, and in some cases going into shelter in place.  It’s scary, it’s depressing, it’s overwhelming and it’s very negative.  My school will start remote teaching/learning on Monday and everybody’s stress level is through the roof.  I can only imagine that it’s like that pretty much everywhere for all sorts of different reasons.

During this time, it’s so easy to fall into negative, defeatist thinking, but that’s the last thing we want to do!  The goal is to remain as upbeat and positive as possible.  I want to do my part to help you.  I’m making the ebook version of Thinking Positive: Take the Journey into Positivity free on Amazon.  It’s free, starting tomorrow, for the next 5 days, so if you don’t have a copy yet, now is your chance to download it for free.  I’m hoping to get the companion Book The Thinking Positive Toolbox ready for publication in the next week to help people remain positive in this very trying time.

We all need to work together – at an appropriate social distance of course.  Check with your older neighbors and see if you can do their grocery shopping.   Don’t hoard the toilet paper people, we all have to go, and really, we’re not going to run out of food, so you don’t need to buy all the cans of chili in the grocery store.  Be kind to one another and help each other out.  Stay healthy and Think Positive

Originally published at Think Positive 30. You can comment here or there.

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Looking on the Bright Side

Most of you know, I’m a HUGE proponent of looking on the bright side of things.  I am always looking for the good in the bad.  I may not always find it, but I do look.  That being said, I had a very interesting conversation in the writing class I am taking.  The instructor had asked to see a copy of my book Thinking Positive: Take the Journey into Positivity, so with much fear and quivering hands, I gave her a copy last week. At the end of class last night, we talked about it and one of the women in the class asked if it was all touchy feely, looking on the bright side.

Now, I don’t think it really is, and I told her as much, and she was relieved.  She then went on to relate a story.  Her mom was terminally ill, and she called a friend to talk about it, and that friend responded with, well look on the bright side, you’ll get to see your brothers.  I was appalled.  There are times when you can be looking on the bright side, and there are times when you just need to grieve, vent and rail against the universe.  For that woman, it was one of those times.

Don’t get me wrong, while there is nothing good about this woman losing her mom, I probably could find some positive things going on in life.  I would never, in a million years ever tell her that! Sometimes, you just need to let it be.  In my mind, that is one of those times.  So while I am a huge fan of looking on the bright side, and I always encourage people to do so, I try to read my audience so to speak, and I advise you to do the same.  In the case of the woman in my writing class, I may have said – think about the joy you can bring to your mom when you and your brothers are together reliving the good memories.  That will bring her so much happiness.  That puts the emphasis on her mom (where it should have been all along) and given her something positive to focus on but without the “oh look on the bright side” comment.

I am, and always will be looking on the bright side, and I will always encourage everybody to do the same.  I just hope that I will be cognizant of the emotional state of other people at the same time.  While I always want to spread the positivity bug, I also want to be a good and supportive friend.  So I guess while I’m looking on the bright side, I’ll look out for my friends as well.

I know my blog posts usually deal with the Daily Positive Thought, so I’ll add that in here!

The whole universe is change and life itself is but what you deem it. – Marcus Aurelius

I really like this quote because it’s not just me that’s changing, or you, but the entire universe!  Change is pretty much a given thing, and we can make of it what we want.  We can accept it and roll with it and make the changes positive. Conversely, we can hold on to the status quo and have a knock down drag out with change and be dragged into it kicking and screaming.

To me, this is where looking on the bright side can come into play. Change happens and you and your attitude will determine whether that change is positive or negative.  If you fight the change and resent it, it’s probably going to be negative, but if you embrace it, and work with it, it will be what you want it to be.  Something good and positive.

I try very hard to accept change.  Do I always?  No, of course not.  Sometimes I do fight it, kicking and screaming all the way and I’ve noticed, the times that I do, well they never turn out just the way I want them to.  When I embrace change wholeheartedly, and view it in a positive light, it tends to go much better for me.  Hopefully I’ll get to a place in my life where I do it more consistently.  Hopefully, you will as well and we can cruise on into the future together.

 

Originally published at Think Positive 30. You can comment here or there.

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Become Remarkable

People become really quite remarkable when they start thinking that they can do things. When they believe in themselves they have the first secret of success. – Norman Vincent Peale

I love this quote!  To me it’s saying that in order for you to become remarkable, you have to believe you are remarkable.  You need to believe in yourself!  I’m taking a little writing course on Monday nights, and last night, the instructor had us rate ourselves as writers on a scale of 1 – 10 and hold up our numbers.  They ranged from 4 to 7, and let me tell you, the instructor was very disappointed in our opinions of ourselves.

Some of it was a cultural thing, I think.  We are not encouraged to think that we are all that and a slice of cake.  But guess what, you are, I am, we all are.  The instructor asked us how could we expect people to believe in our writing if we don’t believe in our own ability to write?  She is right.  I want to become a remarkable writer, and in order to become remarkable, I have to first believe that I am remarkable.

Believe in yourself.  That is the first step in accomplishing anything else.  Believe you are remarkable and you will become remarkable – or maybe, you’ll become even MORE remarkable!

Originally published at Think Positive 30. You can comment here or there.

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The Reason

Everything happens for a reason, you only need to keep on editing your attitude and gratitude so as to sail through. – Unknown

I haven’t felt like writing for a while. I could give you chapter and verse as to why, but in the end, it doesn’t really matter. I just haven’t felt like writing, so I haven’t been writing. I don’t have a concrete reason, I just haven’t felt like writing.  And yet, tonight, here I am writing and the reason for that is I am grateful.  I had something happened to me this weekend which totally sent me over the deep end into the gratitude pool.  That’s not to say I had a bad attitude before or wasn’t grateful for things that had happened, because I was. But right now, I am splashing around in that deep end of the gratitude pool and it feels good, and what do you know, I’m sitting here writing!

Is there a correlation?  Maybe, maybe not.  I don’t know, and you know what?  I don’t care either.   I’m not going to dig through my psyche and try and figure out the why and why not of my not writing.  I don’t need to know the reason why I didn’t, and I don’t need to know the reason why I am tonight.  I only know I’m writing and it feels good.  It’s got be bobbing along in that gratitude pool.  It’s a super nice pool by the way.  Not too hot, not too cold – certainly not crowded!  So if you want to join me come on in.  The reason isn’t important, just try and find it!

Originally published at Think Positive 30. You can comment here or there.

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New Year New You? No Way!

Facebook is full of all the New Year New you posts and to that I say NO WAY!  I like who I am.  I’m not perfect, not by any stretch of the imagination.  Are there things I can improve upon in my life?  Absolutely.  I need to lose weight, I need to stop procrastinating and a myriad of of things.  But those are habits that I need to change.  I don’t need to change who I am at my core and neither do you -unless you WANT to.  It’s a choice you need to make for you, and nobody else can make it for you and they shouldn’t talk you in to making changes you don’t want to make.

Don’t get caught up in the you have to weigh this much, or wear these clothes or belong to this group.  You do you because you are wonderful.  Another super important thing to remember is if you do want to do something different in your life, you can start right now.  You don’t have to wait until next Monday or next month, or in the case of tomorrow, next year.  You start when you are ready.

I’m not making resolutions this year.  I’m celebrating great things to be excited about that will be happening this year, like the end of a school year with several of my seniors graduating.  I’m celebrating the fact that my son is going to be traveling to another country to perform, and that my daughter will be receiving her M.Ed and that I have several for fun classes that I’m thinking of taking.

So don’t change anything unless you want to, don’t make resolutions, celebrate great things you know are coming….way better than resolutions in my opinion, but if feel the need to make a resolution, resolve to be happy, be positive and love yourself.  Happy New Year and have an amazing 2020

Originally published at Think Positive 30. You can comment here or there.

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Be Like Michael

I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.
– Michael Jordan

I think pretty much everybody agree that Michael Jordan was a phenomenal athlete, and an extremely successful one as well.  We should all try and be like Michael.  Not because we should all try and be first class athletes.  That’s a nice dream, but we can’t all do that, there’d be nobody to watch if we were all playing  🙂  No we should all adopt his attitude of trying and failing.  Michael Jordan wasn’t afraid to try and he wasn’t afraid of failing.  He let go of the fear of failing and it helped him to succeed.

That’s pretty amazing. When you think about it, some of his biggest failures were on national television and live in front of thousands of fans. His lack of fear of failing led him to keep trying and trying, and as a result, having more and more success.  Imagine what your like if you would allow yourself to be like Michael?  Just go out there and try without any fear of failure.  What would you accomplish?  Really the sky is the limit.  So be like Michael and don’t let your fear of failure stopping you from succeeding.

Originally published at Think Positive 30. You can comment here or there.

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Who Are You

I know for sure that what we dwell on is who we become.
– Oprah Winfrey

Who are you? If you’re like most people you have probably asked yourself that question at least a couple of times.  The Law of Attraction, and Oprah for the sake of this quote, say you become what you focus upon, and to some extent I think that’s true.  I actually talked about it with my students this past week in school.  We had watched the movie Cinderella Man and were talking about what it means to have a positive attitude.  One thing I wanted the kids to come away with is that a positive attitude doesn’t necessarily mean rainbows, fluffy bunnies and unicorns.  A positive attitude is when you work to make the best of what you have, or what life tosses at you.

In the movie, Jimmy Braddock, played by Russell Crowe had been given a rough row to hoe during the Depression.  Through out the movie, we see that it would have been so easy to just give up, but in the words of one of my students, he just “lived his best life.”  Jimmy Braddock didn’t dwell on what he didn’t have, or what he had lost.  He just kept working to make it better.  To me that is exactly what this quote is talking about.

You are, or you become what you are thinking about and focusing upon.  So really it’s up to you to decide who you are.  Focus on the things that are good, the things that make you strong and the things that help you live your best life, and you will absolutely have your best life.

Originally published at Think Positive 30. You can comment here or there.

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Mistakes are Okay

When we give ourselves permission to fail, we, at the same time, give ourselves permission to excel. – Eloise Ristad

For the longest time, I thought mistakes were bad.  You didn’t want to make mistakes, you wanted to get the right answers and have all your projects work out correctly, right?  That’s what I thought, but I was wrong.  Mistakes are okay.  I may even go so far as to say that mistakes can be a good thing.

I know it sounds crazy, but it’s true.  Think about it. If you never push yourself, if you never try, you may succeed at what you’re trying to do, but what are you missing out on?  You’re missing out on the chance to find more, create more, discover more.  You’re missing out on the chance to excel and to soar.

I know that it seems counter intuitive to say it’s okay to make mistakes and it’s okay to fail.  But really it is.  Giving yourself permission to fail may take you out of your comfort zone, but that’s not a bad thing.  So tell yourself, that it’s okay to take chances, it’s okay to try something new, it’s okay to fail, and most of all, tell yourself that mistakes are okay.  They are, and who knows what you may find out by taking a chance and making a mistake.

Originally published at Think Positive 30. You can comment here or there.

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Life Doesn’t Have To Be Perfect

Do not dwell so much on creating your perfect life that you forget to live. – Unknown

Have you ever gotten so obsessed with making sure something is perfect that you forget to enjoy it?  I have!  Think about a vacation you may have planned.  You can get so caught up in the planning and the itinerary, focusing on where you need to be next instead of enjoying where you are right now.  Think about weddings.  Brides and grooms strive to create the perfect day, and when it’s over, they can’t remember anything about that day.  Or worse, a small issue, like napkins in the wrong shade of ivory, can turn into a giant catastrophe.

It’s good to have goals and to strive to make things as good as they can be.  I want to have the best life possible.  But I don’t want to miss out on the life I have right now in trying to make my life perfect.  The fact of the matter is, it’s never going to be perfect.  Instead of stressing out over them, embrace the imperfections and you may find that they add to your life and make it even better.  But the only way you’re ever going to find out is to live your life.

Originally published at Think Positive 30. You can comment here or there.

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Do Not Dwell

Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate your mind in the present moment. - Buddha

I have been dwelling - a lot lately, and it's not good.  I shared with you all a few months ago that I was dealing with some health issues.  I still am, and lately they have gotten a little worse.  It's not like I'm dealing with anything terminal, so I am very fortunate, but I'm still dwelling on it a lot.
Translation, I'm feeling sorry for myself.  Dwelling on anything isn't good, and that includes the past.  You can get so caught up on what was, that your forget about what is, and that's right now.

I think that sometimes, it's okay to have a good wallow every now and again, it can be healthy and even healing.  But to dwell just means you are focusing on what is negative or bad, or gone, and what good does that do?  When you dwell on the past, you're focusing on what was, be it good or bad.  You can't go back to it, and you can't change it.  So if it's good, appreciate it, if it's bad, let it go and move on.

For me, with my health, I unfortunately, can't let it go, and for the most part, I'm doing a fairly decent job of trying to be positive, but I think I'm still falling into the dumps about it a little too often.  So what I need to do is dig out my handy dandy tool kit of mood changers.  Yes I have a tool kit, I talk about it in Chapter 4 of my book Thinking Positive: Take the Journey into Positivity which is available on Amazon.  Some of the things I do is escape into mindless comedy on tv, or singing on the top of my lungs.  I also have a fondness for making up words, which while annoying for others tends to cheer me up a lot!

So do what you have to do to stop dwelling, be it on the past, or on something that is going on right now.  It's not helping, and dwelling isn't going to change a thing, so why bother.   What strategies do you have to let go of things and not dwell?  I'd love to hear about them.