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Stop Worrying

You can’t change the past, but you can ruin the present by worrying about the future. – Anonymous

 

Worrying robs you of so many things, so stop worrying. I know, I know, easier said than done, right? I am a pro at worrying.  I try not to, I try to keep it in perspective.  This quote is 100% accurate, worrying can’t change the past.  The past is just that, past.  Nothing is going to change it unless you have a time machine, and if you have one of those, we totally need to talk.

If you spend all your time worrying you forget to do the simple thing called enjoying life.  The future isn’t guaranteed so why waste your time worrying about what may be.  Instead, why not stop worrying and take some time and enjoy the right now.

Stop worrying. Like I said it isn’t easy, but I’m trying.  I’m not going to completely stop worrying.  I don’t believe it’s possible, and I also believe that worrying a little bit is okay. It helps to keep us safe.  But I’m working really hard to stop worrying about what was, and enjoying what is right now.

 

Originally published at Think Positive 30. You can comment here or there.

When Is It Too Late

You cannot do a kindness too soon, for you never know how soon it will be too late. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

When is it too late?  The second you don’t say something or do something is when it is too late.  A kind word or gesture costs nothing, so why wait to do it or say it?  Because if you wait too long, it may be too late.

I had a chance to do something kind or somebody once, but I didn’t.  It wasn’t convenient for me, and that person passed away two days later.  Not because of what I didn’t do.  In fact, my not doing the kind gesture had nothing to do with the passing of that person, but it has eaten away at me for the past 29 years.  That’s when it’s too late.

Say the kind word, or perform the kind gesture.  Don’t wait, don’t hesitate. Do it as soon as the opportunity presents itself. You never know if your kind word may be the only nice thing a person has heard all day.  Your kind gesture may be the first sign of kindness someone has seen in months. Reach out to people around you.  When is it too late?  The second you wait, it’s too late.

 

Originally published at Think Positive 30. You can comment here or there.

Give Up

You can have anything you want if you are willing to give up the belief that you can’t have it. –  Dr. Robert Anthony

I find it hard to believe that I would title anything give up, but right here, right now, with this quote, give up works.  There comes a time when you have to give up on the negative thoughts, and the doubts that fill you and stop you from getting what you want.

I hate, and I mean hate the negative thoughts, the doubts and the negative self talk that can fill my head.  It gets in my way and stops me from getting some of the things that I really want.  I know I need to give it up, but I know for me it’s hard to do and I’m sure it is for other people as well.  Those negative things can often masquerade as common sense, or the “safe” choice.  They are tricky little buggers!

One thing I like to do, and it may work for you is to talk back to those negative thoughts.  That’s right, talk back, in fact, you can even argue with them.  For example, I have this incredible story idea that has been building in my head for quite a while, but I haven’t done anything about it. Why? It’s simple – fear.  Fear of failure, fear of it not being good enough.  I’m having lots of arguments with those negative thoughts.  “You may fail?”  “So what. If I try, I may succeed, but i I don’t, I fail automatically.  “It’s not good enough?”  “How do you know it’s not good enough if you don’t try.”

Yeah, I have conversations like that in my head all the time.  I’m working hard to give up the negative thoughts, the doubts and the negative self talk. I’ll admit, arguing with myself may be a little unorthodox, but it’s starting to work for me.  Try it. Find a way to give up those negative thoughts and you’ll be surprised at how much you achieve!

Originally published at Think Positive 30. You can comment here or there.

Something Incredible

Somewhere, something incredible is waiting to be known.
– Carl Sagan

Something incredible. Those very words send shivers of excitement down my spine and my mind starts to imagine all these unknown, great things. This whole quote does that actually.  I wonder where the somewhere is, what the something incredible is and when it’s going to be known.

It’s great to look to far away places for something incredible, but today, right now, I’m looking inward.  Why?  Because I’m incredible and so are you, and it’s time for all of us to recognize that fact.  And more importantly, it’s time to make your incredibleness known to the world.  Don’t hide all the great things about you from the world.  You need to let them shine out.

I think we’re taught from a very early age to be humble. Of course you don’t want to want to come across as an egotistical, conceited know-it-all, but at the same time, you should acknowledge all the great and incredible things about yourself.   Something incredible is waiting to be known and that something is you.  Recognize it in yourself and share it with the world!

Originally published at Think Positive 30. You can comment here or there.

Just Be You

I’ve finally stopped running away from myself. Who else is there better to be? – Goldie Hawn

Just be you. It’s something I say to my students a lot to get them to stop worrying about everybody else.  They are pros at that.  They worry about what everybody else is saying, doing, and of course posting on social media.  If one person says red is the best color ever the next day, two thirds of them are wearing red. They watch the same shows, wear the same clothes, have to own the same phones. As an adult watching their world, it’s exhausting. I can’t imagine living it.

Don’t get me wrong, I can remember being sort of like that in high school.  We had to have Izod shirts and Top Siders, and jeans that had a designer name stitched on the back pocket.  And when my mom was a teen they set their hair with pin curls, pegged their pants and teased their hair.  Trying to be like everybody else isn’t anything new, but oh how I wish, back when I was a teen, there was somebody to say just be you.

I’m starting to just be me, and I kind of like it.  I’m unique, in fact, I’m the only me there is, and there is nobody more qualified to be me, than me.  In this world where we are constantly being pressured to be like everybody else, I can say with 100% certainty that you should just be you, because you are amazing.

Originally published at Think Positive 30. You can comment here or there.

Conquer

It is not the mountain we conquer, but ourselves.
– Sir Edmund Hillary

I had to think about this quote, which is why I’m so late posting today.  How does one conquer themselves? I just wasn’t getting it, in fact I was totally over thinking it.  But then it clicked.

Sir Edmund Hillary, as we all know, was the first confirmed climber of Mt. Everest.  Yes, he climbed the mountain, but he wouldn’t have been able to had he not first conquered the doubts and fears that he had.  If he had given into those doubts and fears he never would have even tried.

Every time we say I can’t, or it’s too hard, we’re giving in to fear and doubt.  You have to conquer the fears and the doubts that fill you, or you’re not going to succeed.  Worse, you’re not going to try!  Get out of your own way, conquer the fears that live inside of you and stop you from trying.

Originally published at Think Positive 30. You can comment here or there.

It’s Okay to be Wrong

Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong. – Peter T. McIntyre

It’s okay to be wrong.  I bet you don’t think it is, but I really do think it’s okay.  Don’t worry about being wrong and making mistakes. That’s how we learn.  It’s okay to make mistakes and it’s okay to be wrong.  When you let go of your fear of being wrong, that’s when you truly shine. That’s when you start to become confident.

I’m wrong a LOT, but I also worry about being wrong and I worry about making mistakes.  I worry about the backlash of when I’m wrong. I strive not to make mistakes and to not be wrong, but I frequently am.   And you know what?  I am not a confident person.  In fact, it’s safe to say that I am sorely lacking in confidence. It makes me truly see the correlation between not worrying about being wrong and being a more confident person. I need to remember that it’s okay to make mistakes.

The question is, how do you move past the fear of being wrong, the fear of making mistakes, and becoming more confident?  I wish I could say I had all the answers, but I don’t.  I think our fear of being wrong and making mistakes is formed very early.  Remember giving a wrong answer in school, or mispronouncing a word when it was time to read out loud?  What happened?  Kids laughed, and the teacher corrected you, sometimes rather harshly.  Things like that make us want to get it right, and make us want to be perfect.  I can remember in reading group trying to figure out how many kids were ahead of me to read so I could mentally practice the section I was supposed to read.  Doing that meant I missed all the content and wouldn’t be able to answer questions about anything except for the section I had to read. End result, fear of making mistakes and a total lack of confidence. I wish I knew that that it’s okay to make mistakes.

Let go of the need to always be right, and the fear of being wrong.  It’s okay to be wrong and it’s okay to make mistakes.  Take chances, speak up and try new and different things and let the confidence flow through you.

 

 

Originally published at Think Positive 30. You can comment here or there.

Think Like a Child

Appreciate again and again, freshly and naively, the basic goods of life, with awe, pleasure, wonder and even ecstasy, however stale these experiences may have become to others. – Abraham Maslow

Yes I know we’re adults, and I’m telling you to think like a child, and honestly, I can’t think of any better advice to give someone.  Before you can think like a child, think about how a child thinks. I’m serious. Think about the wonder and amazement and the zeal and zest for living that a child has.  Think about the excitement a child can have over the simplest thing – getting an ice cream, or a balloon, or even splashing in a puddle on a rainy day.

That joy for life, that zest for living is something we never, ever want to lose.  Think like a child.  Find joy and beauty in the simple things, in the mundane everyday facets of life.  Don’t let those experiences become stale. Don’t let them sour you, and take away your childlike awe and wonderment.

So yes, I will urge you to think like a child, and I will continue to think like a child.  I won’t shirk my adult responsibilities, but I will continue to find wonder and joy in the everyday things that life brings me.  Am I going to giggle and laugh with glee when presented with my credit card bill? Probably not.  But I will think back to what I used that card for and I will find happiness and joy in it.  Even if it’s something as mundane as a car repair?  Why? Because hey, I have a car, and I have places to go, and people to see, and my car can take me there. So think like a child and find joy in living.

Originally published at Think Positive 30. You can comment here or there.

Changing your life

I am all about making changes in my life.  I have tons of great ideas about things I want to do to change my life.  I may not be so great with the follow through, but that’s a blog for another day.  Anyhow, back to changing your life.  We all have different vehicles we use to bring about change in our lives.  This website is one of mine.  But I recently read an amazing article about changing your life.  It’s written by Kathleen McGovern, and it’s called.  How To Change Your Life With One Word.  Ms. McGovern says a lot of great things in her article, but this stands out for me….you need clarity and sustained focus over time.

The whole article is great, and I encourage you to read it here, but that one phrase really resonates.  You can’t exercise once and then be healthy or cut back on the junk food for a day and be skinny (oh how I wish that were true).  Nor can you pick up a book and look at it once and think you’ll be prepared for a test the next day. Changing your life takes time and focus, but there are some things you can do to really help you along your way.

Check out the article and let me know what you took away from it, because I truly loved it!

Originally published at Think Positive 30. You can comment here or there.

Laugh Through It

Humor can help you cope with the unbearable so that you can stay on the bright side of things until the bright side actually comes along. – Allen Klein

Some of the best advice I’ve ever been given is to laugh through it.  Laugh through the bad times, and through the sad times, and of course through the good times.  They, whomever they are, say that laughter is the best medicine, and they are right.

Laughing can get you through some really troublesome times, and can bolster you up and give you the strength to come out on the other side. When I was in my early twenties, my dad passed away rather unexpectedly. It was of course a really horrible time. At the cemetery, the bugler was playing taps. They did the twenty-one gun salute, and were preparing to fold the flag.  We were standing there, my mom, my little sister, and I, crying when suddenly, my mother’s tummy gurgled loud enough for the three of us to hear.  One by one we started to giggle – softly at first, but the more we tried to control it, the louder we got.  Inappropriate?  Maybe, but honestly, it got us through a terribly traumatic time and made the rest of the day, and the days to come that much easier to deal with.

Try it.  The next time you’re struggling emotionally, mentally or physically, find something that tickles your funny bone and laugh through it.  Laugh through it and keep on laughing until you come out on the other side where things are better.

 

Originally published at Think Positive 30. You can comment here or there.

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